FAQs About Grief

The overwhelming sadness and waves of grief you are experiencing after a profound loss are some of the most difficult and painful parts of the grieving process. These intense emotions can feel all-consuming at times, making even basic daily tasks and functioning incredibly hard.

First, I want you to know that what you are going through is normal. Grief affects everyone differently, but these periods of deep sorrow and crashing waves of sadness are to be expected. You have loved, and been loved, deeply - and having those bonds torn away naturally brings forth immense pain.

There are some strategies that can help you cope when these grief attacks strike. One of the most important is to not resist them or try to ignore the feelings. Resisting just tends to make them stronger. Instead, let yourself feel what you need to feel in that moment. Cry, pound a pillow, go to a private space and let the emotions out vocally and physically.

Remember to breathe deeply during the waves. Slow, mindful breathing can be incredibly grounding. Also, remind yourself that as overpowering as it feels, the intensity will pass. The waves will crest and then fade again for a bit.

Lean on your support system during these times by calling on family or friends, attending a support group, or scheduling counselling sessions. Having compassionate listeners and places to process can provide immense comfort.

Be kind and gentle with yourself too. This is an exceptionally tender time. Prioritize self-care like ensuring you eat, rest when needed, and take breaks from grief's heaviness periodically through simple pleasures or distractions.

The waves of sadness may never fully go away after a major loss - we carry that grief beside us. But they should become more infrequent and less intensely overwhelming with time, care and grief work. Be patient and compassionate with this transformative process you are going through.

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