

FAQs About Grief
Should I seek professional counseling or join a grief support group?
Grief is one of life's most profoundly disruptive experiences. Having a caring, objective source of support can be invaluable as you navigate the complex emotional landscape before you. While loved ones undoubtedly want to help, the depth of what you're going through may be hard for them to truly understand.
Working with a qualified grief counsellor provides a sacred, judgment-free space to process all that you're feeling and thinking. We can help guide you through stuck points, unexpected responses, or painful revisions of your self-narrative and worldview after this loss.
Having an experienced professional can also educate you about what to expect from the grieving process, which can unfold in nonlinear phases over years, not weeks. We can suggest healthy coping strategies for when the anguish feels unrelenting.
Grief counselling can take various forms - from one-on-one sessions to group therapy settings. Support groups in particular can offer solidarity and comfort in witnessing others travelling along a similar path. The power of no longer feeling alone cannot be overstated.
In these shared groups, which can be general bereavement forums or loss-specific, you can share coping tools, memories, and validation for all you're going through. Hearing others' stories reminds you that your pain is normal and that your experiences are shared by others.
I always remind clients that seeking grief counselling isn't a sign of weakness, but an act of profound self-compassion and courage. You're choosing to fully tend to the most elemental human hurt rather than neglecting it.
Whether through professional individual support or the embracing community of a group, I encourage you to explore all the resources available. You deserve to feel guided, understood and accompanied through this raw personal transition, not adrift in the abyss of grief.

Ida Uzelman is the compassionate heart behind River of Hope Counselling in Kelowna, British Columbia. Originally from Africa, Ida has embraced the warmth of the Okanagan as her home for the past three decades. Her life's passion lies in supporting others through times of grief and loss, fueled by the echoes of her own family's experiences. Ida finds endless inspiration in works like "The Gift," "Grief Journey," and "The Untethered Soul" as she continues her journey as a forever learner.

In her personal life, Ida delights in the simple joys - playing tennis, hiking the local trails, dancing, and sharing laughter over plain rice and salt with dear friends and family. Above all, she lives with profound gratitude for every experience that has shaped her into the caring counsellor she is today. While the past cannot be changed, Ida believes we all have the power to find new meaning in our present moments and the resilience within ourselves.